Actress Audrey Tautou wondered in a well-known movie how many couples were having an orgasm at that moment. Fifteen, Amélie would reply. However, there are those who wonder, not by the number of orgasms, but by how many of them are fake and above all, why do we fake them.
“The feigned orgasm is a very widespread phenomenon, both among men and women,” say the authors of a recent study published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior. However, despite being a relatively common practice, Most of the scientific studies carried out to date have focused on finding out the frequency and little has been investigated about the reasons that lead us to simulate the sexual climax.
But University of Kansas psychologist Danya Goodman and her colleagues Omri Gillathy and Parnia Haj-Mohamadi have tried to dig a little deeper into the reasons why so many people fake orgasms and concluded that essentially orgasms can be classified into six categories: those who do because they like, for your partner, for end the sexual act, for handling, for unsafety or as a form of emotional communication.
The researchers arrived at these categories after grouping the different reasons they obtained from a series of volunteers and after analyzing those that appear in previous studies. Among the most common reasons in the category of those who do it for their partner are protect her so that she does not feel bad, make them enjoy or increase their arousal.
Among the reasons for the category of manipulation, the get things in return of their partners. While in the category of insecurity, the wish not to look weird and the fear of rejection.
Finally, those who fake orgasms as a form of emotional communication do so primarily to express the love they feel for their partners, to feel loved or to increase complicity or closeness with their peers.
According to the authors in the study, “people have very different reasons for faking orgasms” and “some of them have more serious clinical implications than others.” That is why they consider it important to carry out a categorized list of reasons such as the one they have developed, to “help therapists better understand their clients’ experiences, shedding light on the different underlying needs and motives of each person.”
Men also pretend
Although the main objective of the study has focused on defining a categorized scale of reasons for faking orgasms and not so much on showing firm conclusions on this topic, the researchers found some interesting data, such as that 76 percent of women claimed to have faked an orgasm at least once, while in the case of men the percentage reached 41 percent.
Although the data corresponding to women is only slightly higher than that found in previous studies, that of men is a noveltyNot only because of the high percentage, but because there are hardly any studies that address the problem from a male perspective. “Instead of being part of the ‘female mystique’, faking an orgasm seems to be a common behavior and practiced by both men and women,” say the researchers.
Previous studies have already drawn attention to the gender gap when addressing this issue. In a similar article published in 2015 in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, the sexologist Lea Seguin assured that “practically all the research on faked orgasms have focused on women ”, which“ may be partly due to the assumption that since men’s orgasms are often accompanied by ejaculation, it is more difficult for men to fake orgasm, or impossible to do so. do ”.
However, there are exceptions in the scientific literature and some research has already confirmed that, indeed, men also fake orgasms. Among the few studies that have also addressed this issue from a male perspective, the work of University of Kansas researcher Charlene L. Muehlenhard, published in 2010, stands out.
According to the results of their study, 28% of men and 67% of women had faked orgasms, although the percentage was lower, 25 and 50 respectively, among the participants who had had penetrative sexual experiences. Most of the participants in this study claimed to have faked an orgasm during vaginal penetration, but some even faked during oral sex, masturbation, or phone sex.
Men pretend more when drunk
Regarding the possible differences between men and women when it comes to faking orgasms, neither the recent Goodman study nor the Muehlenhard study focused on this issue. However, in Goodman’s study there was one result that caught the researchers’ attention. Approximately 35% of the women consulted stated that one of the reasons for faking orgasm is that they believed it was what was expected of them, while this motive was not mentioned even once by men.
Although at the time of elaborating the scale, this motive was diluted in other more general categories, the researchers consider that “perhaps women are more guided by the expectations of others when they fake orgasm, or perhaps there are different sexual expectations for women. women”. Even so, the researchers assure that they will dedicate “more space to differences or gender similarities in future studies.”
For its part, the research carried out by Seguin did try to analyze gender differences when it comes to faking orgasms and the only ones they found is that men are more likely than women to do so when drunk, when they are not comfortable with the sexual experience or due to feelings of insecurity.
Both the Goodman and Seguin works are the two most recent samples of studies that attempt to offer a more in-depth and categorized analysis of the reasons that lead people to fake orgasms. However, despite the coincidences, it seems clear that still there is a long way to go to unify criteria and understand a little better this aspect of human sexuality.